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Anna, When dealing with an addict or someone with an addictive nature, you are entering a whole other areana of issues. People who are impulsive wether male or female feel the need to lie to cover up there behaviors because they deep down inside are ashamed of there addiction. You can not change a person. That person has to want it for them selves.
Keep in mind that a person who is impulsive can also be very manipulative and convincing. Your not married, the relationship is still young, my advice is to distance yourself and rethink this relationship. Do your research. Best of luck to you. Do not allow him to pressure you or convince you that your the key to his success in quiting whatever it is he is doing. That is a key component that male addicts especially use on there female companions.
Females are naturals nurtures. We want to love, be loved, needed and wanted. Addicts, say they need us, want us, and loves us. They need our help.. They need help but we can only give so much.
The other person has to want to help themselves and even then no one can truly do it alone. It takes our lord and savor Jesus Christ to come in and mold us and shape us and help us. To many avoid him because they feel they are not worthy of his help. But the trueth is because of gods grace and mercy we are. You will never win this battle on your own. Neither will he. Pre, this is a red flag situation. This guy shows an extreme immaturity and an untrustworthy demeanor about himself.
If he lies about the small things he will lie about the big things too. You have to ask yourself if you are willing to put up with his games or not? Sound like you have a prankster on your hands.
Not good. Also, do not get any big purchases with this guy like, homes, cars or major credit cards. Keep a watchful eye on this guy especially where your finances are concerned. I feel like this…If something happens or is about to happen and you feel you have to lie about it then use good judgement and DONT DO IT! Everyone deserves to know the truth no matter how ugly or uncomfortable it is. One may be that he was trying to find a way to break of the sexual relationship with you.
Another thing may be that the friend could be mis-informed. I would suggest you drop it and move on. Yea ur right but I know 4 a fact that he is not in a serious relationship im just confused. but thank you so much really love The advice…. Here is the delema in that. As a female we operate out of out emotions.
Because the issue of him lying to you bothers you so much I can clearly see that your emotional feelings towards this man have become involved wether you want to admit it or not I am only stating the obvious dear. You may very well be a awesome catch for a potential mate. However when we present ourselves wrong to the opposite sex, we have set the mood for the future of that relationship.
No more. no less. You have him the perks of a relationship sex,friendship,conversation,ect without him having to commit. If you want to avoid this in the future, then build a good foundation with a man, build emotional intimacy and use your vibrator in the meantime until you trust him and only then should you sleep with a man.
A FWB situation to a female is the worst you can put yourself in. You deserve better. Show your strength and move on. Smile and be polite. Look amazing and find the great life you deserve. Dont ever go back to FWB with him or another male!!!
Ajiri Ovie, sounds to me like your a rebound chick to this man. They still have sex! Lol he may be cheating on you. Like I said, trying to find something he likes better. Drop is butt! We live together so that we can save some money. He is my bestfriend and we do everything together; we were even going to major in the same thing until I switched career paths. She came to our apartment and dropped them off.
I recently discovered that they have all their classes together and walk to class together. He gets awkward when I ask him about her or he gets mad. I just want to tell her to back off! Both of our families are really close and they even talk about us getting married one day. His family loves and my family loves him. He has lied to me about texting her, walking to class with her, sitting in class with her, and about group projects they have to do together. I do not understand- the fact that they are friends does not bother me, what bothers me is the fact that he continues to lie and keep things from me.
What do I do?! It is really hard to be in college while worrying about this :. Sweety, pull the blind folds off your eyes! Girlfriend he lying to you. Females are more capable of keeping males as friends then a male a female. Females are emotional beings. We think with our hearts. Men are not wired the same as we are.
They are hard wired for it. You leave them with a good lookin piece of meat long enough baby they gonna bite! They need to experience sex with difrent mates.
Females sometimes want this to but no where near as much as men want it. Look, if you really love this guy, test his butt. So ask. i had been in a relationship for four years.. i have always doubted that my boyfriend was lying to me. he always told me that he loves me.. he was in a previous relationship and is staying in the same house as his girlfriend. we rarely see each other at times only three times a month. he has a son with this other woman. he never took me to visit his home..
and said that he had plans for us in the future. so please tell me where did i go wrong? Edlina, first of all never ever get with a man who is already in a relationship. With that being said, you should have stopped that relationship 4 years ago when it started before your emotions had got involved. He is playing you like a violin sweetly. U have allowed this to go on for so long and he knows how to manipulate your emotions now.
You are his side thing. I think men need to be taught how to respect their women from a young age and maybe half of the problems they create will be avoided. and that goes for a man or a woman. LADIES if your man is ling to you and cheating on you and you gave him chance after chance after chance, and you see no type of progression, nothing is changing?
LEAVE HIS ASS! simple as that! These men think we are supposed to take them back after they dog us out time after time. HELL NO! a taste of their own medicine. They playing games like they will never lose us ladies! We need to show them that we mean something and that if they are going to continue to lie and all of the above, we soon will not be looking at them anymore, but looking past them.
This makes me very sad. I read all these stories about others relationships.. and I wonder why are men are still such dirtbags? dont get me wrong women are too but seems like men are more. he is a great guy takes care of me and does anything for me.. but yet he still seeks attention from other women.
I swear he cant have girls just as friends.. which makes me soo mad. He likes to talk to women online on a sexual level and lie about not having a gf and plays the victom that his ex cheated on him which of course not talking about me.. talking about his ex Which he did get cheated on lied to treated bad taken advantage of, Not only with strangers he meets but with women I know which makes me look more of an idiot when I see them or talk to them..
becuase he tells them one thing and I I tell them another.. and yes I know they are not true friends.. and makes it hard for me to have true girlfriends Here I am like an idot being faithful to him honest loving caring and him doing this to me behind my back… and I do think we have a great relationship. besides him doing what he does.. and I am not sure if he has ever cheated on me with women he meets or that I know.
I have told him in the past to be honest with me becuase I have seen naked pics of women on his phone conner of my eye when we are watching tv.. and he still denies it and doesnt show me pics..
I am not stupid.. I love the guy but how much more can I take.. I feel like a big idiot!! You dont know how much this has enlightened me. Ive been tired of wishing things could be different but I realized the more I wish things to be different the more I push reality and the real answers away from myself. I have come to the conclusion that the only way to liberate my mindset is to accept things as they are.
I cant change other people. But I can accept why people do the things they do so I can get what I need from the situation the best I can to meet my own needs. I appreciate your fairness- it has made all the difference for my understanding. A guy I was dating for two years lied about having a child.
I still care about him. If he had just told me from the get go we would have avoided any arguments. The whole time I just thought maybe he was hiding a girlfriend or a wife or he was ashamed of me. I think these reasons are honestly a lot of crap specially when a man just lies because he feels like it. My ex lied to me about where he lived, about not driving, about work and mostly everything and this was in the first week of meeting each other. The first thing you should look for in a man is if he spends TIME with you in a NON-SEXUAL way.
All women should be loved not used like this. We have been together for almost two years and our relationship has had its bumps but we managed to get through these hurdles with our adoring bond and mutual respect for one another. I never questioned the latter until recently when I found out that he lied to me about having any kind of sexual relationship or history with his best female friend.
When I had asked five months prior he made the question sound absurd, reassuring me that his current relationship with her was nothing to worry about. I never distrusted him because I assumed he was being honest.
I guess thats called naivety. I found out it was a lie after he confessed to having sex with her over the years dozens of times, in the middle of a fight about another lie that he had told me. I never mistrusted him before, I always admired him for his seemingly honest nature. But he just delayed the inevitable.
He has never shown signs of straying but should I make him choose between his best friend and me? Do you think I should trust that their sexual past is cold dead now? Leave him period. Has no respect for you or himself. The rest is noise. Locate the courage your born with and just leave…just walk out, no note, call, last talk…. leave with your selfrespect. you seem to give good advice so I have a question for you. I met these two foreign gorgeous men over doing break and we did hook up.
One could tell I like the other guy more and he even mentioned it. before that he had gone on and on about how they played cricket at USC. well I did a little research and they play soccer at a small college near USC. now I feel like the memory of a great weekend is ruined with lies. someone from break posted a pic of him on the beach onFacebook and it was quickly removed?! or maybe he was trying to impress me?
but why cricket? I just want to know because it would have been a great memory dispite this lie. hi sam…. my partner lied to me as well the same as yours. He told me his bestie and him new each other from primary school!
Their nicknames and affectionate relationship I never questioned…. Yes they both new each other at school but not well to be besties. He loves me dearly and hates he hurt me. my advise get to know her and get to know their friendship…if it is attraction you will spot it. Hi I recently ended things completely with this guy I was dating for a couple of months, yeah so heres the situation, he started off really keen and infatuated at first as most guys do.
We honestly just clicked like it was already so real right away. the way he would talk to me about certain things, and just hold my hand, you know small things but somehow they made a big impact like never before. Then out of nowhere he slowly distanced himself completely. I recently found out he had gotten back with an ex well almost certain. Was it? Was I taken for a sucker? Hey Crystal, This kind of scenario happens all the time. Dating is the testing phase. I wish you luck and I hope I could help!
Hi Eric, I met a guy at a club about a month and a half ago. Initially I was not too into him and he knew it. But we kept in contact after we met.
Initially he bombarded me with text messages for the first 2 weeks until we caught up again on a date. He made a big impression with the first date. So I met up with him again…we started to kiss and I then felt he wanted to take it further as it was his apartment and we were alone. Offcourse I would have love to have sec as well…since I started to get attracted to him, but I wanted more than sex from him.
He agreed. We then kept in contact every day. telling each other what turned us on etc. But he did not make any effort to take me out to dinner…wanted to always catch up for a drink…. was fine with me. Then eventually he made an effort to catch up for lunch on his day off work. It was a working day for me, but since I work for myself, I made an effort to meet him. It was a lovely afternoon we exchanged thoughts of what we are after in each other…and the future. I asked him if he was after just fun or a relationship for the future.
We kissed at the restaurant and hugged on the way to my car and kissed again in public. We then kept in contact as usual. I said with whom? your dream lover? I then also felt that I wanted to take the relationship to the next level , so I asked him if he was free Saturday night …I told him I had movie tickets. I was okay with that as they were the same girls he was hanging out with when we met. Anyway come Saturday I was to meet him at the club and then found out that evening that the drinks with his friends were cancelled as they were all very tired.
But he caught up with me at the club. I was supposed to go to the club with my friends, so he came along with his female flatmate. I told me about the new flatmate the last time we met for lunch. I was okay with it. But was not aware he was going to show up with her to the club. When I met her I was sort off intimidated as she was pretty and only 28years old Russian.
Anyway I put that aside. In the course of conversation with her, she told me that he took her to another club the night before I was ok with this too to some extent, as they lived in the city and she was new to the country. My friends wanted to leave the club early so I asked him if I can come sleep at his apartment on the couch.
He then sighed and said he likes to sleep in on a Sunday….. and then added that he had to pick up his son as well the son bit even if true, was not that early. I was so upset to hear him say he could not do what I asked for taking into consideration it would have been the first time we would have been intimate. I left the club upset. He left me at the door and kissed me and asked me to text him when I get home.
But this is when everything started to get ugly for me. I was tipsy, I text him saying to lose my phone number. Then the next day I realised what I had done, and realised that I really liked him, and did not want to lose him. So I text him apologising…twice. In my second text messages apologising I mentioned that if there was nothing between us we can be friends. No response on Sunday. So I called Monday evening…and explained myself again…and said the same thing about being friends …he then asked me why I was stressing out.
I said I stress for everything. I also said that I was thinking of us being just friends…. and said he was right that attraction has a use by date…. take care.
we can be friends if you like…. I thought it its best I back off as I looked needy and desperate…. even thought it was partly his fault. I am just finding it hard to forget him. Sorry about the lengthy email. Very few people really hold honesty as a value.
I learned this the hard way, when I got run over by a very good friend in a professional situation. She lied her face off and ruined a professional opportunity for me just so she could get in on the action. It was disgusting. There are a few people like that out there. You can trust them.
Can you help me. It wasnt a cheap one either. it was quite an expensive smartphone. Find an honorable guy. I would like some advice please. We started dating the next week and the week after he told me he thought he was falling in love with me. Here is where I need the advice. He married his 2nd wife so she would health insurance. I found it in his closet.
And he lies to me about talking to another girl he went to school with. Oh yeah, she told him lies about me when we first started dating. Related post: 11 signs your husband is an asshole and what to do. Here are the most common things. Lying is a way for him to assert his independence and regain some power in the relationship. Relationship issues are another common thing men lie about. He might make commitment promises or declarations of love when he really has no intention of following through.
There are many reasons why a man might lie about work or money. Or maybe he has a gambling problem and is afraid to admit it. Men are often taught to suppress their feelings and avoid showing any vulnerability in childhood. Lying is never good, but it can be especially damaging in relationships. This can lead to all kinds of relationship problems, such as:.
Username or Email Address. Remember Me. To use social login you have to agree with the storage and handling of your data by this website. facebook pinterest. Search Search for: Search. He feels insecure If your man is insecure or suffers from low self-esteem , there are many things he might feel motivated to lie about. The secret ingredient that will make your man commit All men have a biological urge to feel useful and needed in their relationships.
So how do you trigger the hero instinct in a man? Related post: How to save a marriage with trust issues 17 tips 8. Related post: 11 signs your husband is an asshole and what to do What do men lie about most? Relationship issues Relationship issues are another common thing men lie about. In just a few minutes you can connect with a certified relationship coach and get tailor-made advice for your situation.
This is a common reason for men to choose not to be honest with their significant other about something. You see, this can be about something really small like finding a friend or an actress attractive. Of course, in situations like this, not wanting to hurt your feelings is only part of the problem, he probably also wants to protect himself, so a lot of the time, men have different reasons for lying at once.
The thing is, when you are good at lying, you can control the situation a lot easier than when you tell the truth. The question is, will this really be beneficial for a man? Will the lie catch up with them eventually? They might have a good reason for not wanting to talk about something and would rather do it later.
You see, when there is an incentive to truthfully talk about something later on, then he could also just say it outright. Does that make it okay? The more white lies a man tells, the more he might get used to lying and will lie automatically, even with bigger things.
One of the most common reasons why men lie is because they are jealous or insecure. Men sometimes have a hard time trusting someone else, and they often try to protect themselves and their feelings. They may not want to share their feelings with you and think that if they pretend like everything is okay then it will be. One of the most common reasons why a man lies to a woman is because he wants to take advantage of her.
He wants to have access to her and her emotions, so he tells her what she wants to hear to keep her in his life. This type of lie often comes out in the form of smooth-talking and sweet words that make it hard for you not to believe him.
But these types of lies can also come out as subtle changes in behavior or even as manipulation through guilt-tripping or other forms of emotional abuse. He may feel that he owes his friend something, or he feels sorry for someone and therefore lies for them. This is another one of the most common reasons why men lie, and it can come out in a number of different ways. Getting away with something can be anything from cheating, to texting other women, to have made a huge mistake in his business.
You see, it can be empowering to tell someone a convincing story or fake information and make them believe it. Men are no exception. Many men lie to protect their egos or to maintain a sense of power in a relationship. When you call them out, they blame someone else instead of taking responsibility for what happened.
The thing is, we lie every day. To tell you the truth, I think that we would all benefit from trying to be more honest in all aspects of our lives.
Of course, that might not be possible, so I guess lying becomes objectively wrong once another person is involved and is deceived to a point that has an influence on their life. Men know the quickest way to endear themselves to a woman is to tell her, "I care for you, baby I love you. There are two simple ways you can distinguish the "sincere" guys from the liars. Men who are sincerely in love with you do not tell you this right before having sex with you or while having sex with you.
They will tell you they love you in a random manner "just because. RELATED: These 5 Phrases Are Signs Someone Is Lying To You. Now that you know the most common things men lie about, it's important to recognize the signs he's lying. According to author, speaker, and educator Diana Raab, MFA, Ph. The use of self-soothing techniques such as ear tugging, neck touching, collar pulling, or mouth covering. It's important to trust your intuition. If it feels like something is off, that very well may be the case.
That said, it's also important to avoid making drastic assumptions. As certified life and relationship coach Doren Weinstein explains , start by taking stock of his behavior under normal conditions. You could try to ask them a series of simple questions and observe how they behave when they have no reason to lie.
If you catch any of the aforementioned signs that signal he may be lying to you, confront the situation in a calm manner when you feel it's safe to do so. You know your relationship and your partner best, so no matter the circumstances, you'll know the best way to proceed. RELATED: 8 Sneaky Ways To Catch A Liar. Alan Roger Currie is a book author, dating coach, public speaker, and talk radio host.
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